During this time of the year, our culture floats various definitions and examples of love towards our children. Use these activities and ideas to create a meaningful Valentine’s Day for your whole family.
Beyond the excitement of carefully planned date nights, flower arrangements, and chocolate boxes, Valentine’s Day provides the opportunity to illustrate the depth of care to those we love the most. It’s easy for our kids to simply look at this holiday and see the world’s emphasis on money and materialism. However, Valentine’s Day’s origin and deeper meaning emphasizes a special type of care and love. Using these special Valentine’s Day activities for kids, you can teach your family how to demonstrate compassion and care to anyone from close friends and family to strangers.
Valentine’s Day Activities for Kids: Notes and Crafts
My family makes homemade valentines for the widows and widowers in our church. We pray over the
cards and for the people they are going to. On the Sunday before Valentine’s Day, we hand them out.
It’s a small way for my children to begin caring for those who may be sad or lonely on Valentine’s
In February, I set a “love jar” on the kitchen counter. When my kids see an act of kindness or God’s love demonstrated, they write it down and place it in the jar. At the end of the month, we go out for ice cream and take time to read from the pile of slips.
Written Notes for the Overlooked
When my children were little, I’d have them make Valentine’s Day cards out of paper and craft supplies. Then we’d mail them to those who might be overlooked — widows and widowers who were facing their first Valentine’s Day without their spouse, or friends who had recently endured a rough divorce. Then all year, whenever my children complained that they were bored, I’d have them make similar cards that we’d send as encouragement to missionaries.
My husband and I purchased a small mailbox for Valentine’s Day. Each morning in February, we placed a note and a small treat in it for our son. Grammie and Grandpa were even able to get in on it and contributed a note, as well. Our son loved it! He jumped out of bed to see what was in his mailbox each day. Our notes, which often included Bible verses, told him how much we loved him, but also how much God loved him and how special God made him. (You can make your own mailbox and notes for your children in this download.)
Valentine’s Day Activities for Kids: Blessing Strangers
Beginning when my daughter was 2, we found a way to encourage others around Valentine’s Day. We
made craft hearts out of paper. I wrote, “Thank you for the love you show your community” on one
side and “We appreciate you” on the other. We carried these hearts with us during February, and my
daughter gave them to different workers we encountered — cashiers, librarians, custodians and
others. It made her more aware of the people in our community.
Hearts on Door Handles
One February, my daughter and I decided to celebrate Valentine’s Day by blessing complete
strangers. We cut hearts out of leather scraps, punched holes in the top and threaded a string
through the hole. Some hearts we left plain. On others we wrote notes, such as “You are loved.”
We spent the week before Valentine’s Day leaving these hearts on door handles, in public areas and
at the grocery store. We also handed them to people with the mission to “share the love.”
It’s been inspiring for us to see people walking around town with our little hearts hanging on their
backpacks and purses long after Valentine’s Day.
Show Love to Others
To help our children, ages 7 and 4, understand that all people are valuable, especially in God’s eyes, I planned a simple event for our family. We began with “Love Bingo” — using homemade bingo cards with a characteristic of love (as described in 1 Corinthians 13) written into each block. I called out the characteristics and my husband helped the girls mark their cards. I took time to explain how God loves us and expects us to love others and treat them with dignity.
After our game, we prayed that God would make us aware of a need so we could show His love to someone. We noticed a homeless gentleman on our way to buy pizza. After we ordered what we needed, we purchased a pizza and drink for him. My oldest daughter wrote “God loves you” on the box before my husband handed over the food.
Though our gesture didn’t significantly alter this man’s plight, it did help our young daughters understand that God desires for us to share what we have with others.
Print out Love Bingo cards and calling cards to use with your kids.
Valentine’s Day Activities for Kids: Family and Friends
My husband and I came up with a new Valentine’s Day tradition: double-dating our children. He became our daughter’s date, and I became our son’s. Our hope was that our children would learn how to act on a date from our examples and would eventually look for spouses who treated them like we did on these dates.
The first Valentine’s Day double date consisted of dinner and a movie. My husband held the door for our daughter, which taught our son to do the same for me. The evening continued in this way, as we gave our “dates” special attention. Everyone enjoyed this Valentine’s Day event so much that we’ve continued the tradition over the last four years.
Love in Action
During February, my family looks for “love acts.” When I see my 4-year-old do something well, I say, “Wesley, you obeyed the first time I asked. When we obey God the first time, that shows Him we love Him. Way to go!” This helps Wesley hear the connection between loving God and obeying Him.
These love acts can also be done toward each other. For example, I explain to my kids that doing chores demonstrates love for the rest of the family. When we describe love in actions, we help our children begin to understand how real love is shown through more than just our words.
A New Focus for Valentine’s Day
Valentine’s Day is all about romantic love and celebrating with your “special someone.” But as our daughter gets older, we want to help her focus less on the boy in the third row at school and more on the long-lasting relationships in her life that show her she is accepted and special.
So we’ve made it a Valentine’s Day tradition to create and deliver gift boxes filled with chocolate-covered strawberries.
As we hand-dip the strawberries, we talk about the important friendships in our lives and the joy we get from giving love to others. Later, we personally deliver the treats to close family friends. This fun tradition gives our daughter a sense of belonging among a community whose love lasts long past the February holiday.
A Valentine’s Day Tradition
I set up a Valentine’s Day scavenger hunt for my 4- and 2-year-old. Each clue pertained to our home or things that we’d been reading about. The answers were locations. For example: “If what you want the most is to turn bread into toast, you use this.” Or “Mr. Tumnus thought Lucy was from Spare Oom. Where is our Spare Room?”
I directed the girls to the first clue. They joyfully found each clue, asked for it to be read and then went off in search of the next. The end of their adventure revealed a hidden trove of special treats.
The following year, when we changed our calendar to February, the immediate question was, “Will we have a treasure hunt again?”
Focus on the Family Valentine’s Day Resources
It’s easier than ever to let your family and friends know how much you care. Check out these Focus on the Family Valentine’s Day activities for kids. Sign in to download all three themes!
- Your kids can show God’s love to their friends with free Adventures in Odyssey Valentine’s Day Cards. (Each card gives access to a free Adventures in Odyssey episode!).
- Or download free Average Boy Valentine’s Day Cards provided by Focus on the Family’s Clubhouse magazine.
- Check out the free Out Back Friends Valentine’s Day Cards provided by Clubhouse Jr. magazine.
“Hearts on Door Handles” © 2019 by Lori Zenker. “Love Notes” © 2019 by Robin Meade. “Community Cards” © 2019 by Emily Yang. “Double Dates” © 2019 by Heather Lynn. “Love Jar” © 2018 by Lindsey Bell. “Love Notes” © 2017 by Cindi Ferrini. “Love in Action” © 2017 by Lauren Osborne. “Special Delivery” © 2017 by Amber Pike. “Show Love to Others” © 2010 by Cookie Cawthon. “A New Focus for Valentine’ Day” © 2012 by Janna Jones. “A Valentine’s Day Tradition” © 2016 by Courtney Taylor. All rights reserved. Used by permission.